Do not try to be so hard on yourself, trying to find answers to all yoru questions. Sometimes learn to take life as it is. Accept the answers which are not given to you. May be it will work out the best for you. Sometimes just think of taking a quiet walk around a lake and wonder about things which are more beautiful in life. Sometimes reduce your pace and just say to yourself, "I will have a relaxed day"
Do not mix love nd life. Life is messy i agree. There will difficult moments, bills that seem to be too much, jobs might be tiring. There will be staff issue..All this is ok. You may have to sell possessions just to make ends meet and live of grilled cheese sandwiches and hope. This is life. It’s going to be messy. However this chaos has nothing to do with love. If you love someone, keep all this mess aside and live those moments with him/her.
“I’ve made mistakes in my life. I’ve let people take advantage of me, and I accepted way less than I deserve, but I’ve learned from my bad choices and even though there are some things I can never get back and people who will never be sorry, I’ll know better next time and I won’t settle for anything less than I deserve.”