How To Break Relationship If you need to break up with somebody you love. Let them distinguish in advance that you want to talk about roughly so they’re ardently prepared. During the discussion, use “I” statements, like “I want to spend time on my own right now”. So they don’t feel like you’re accusing them. Be authentic about why you’re separating them, but avoid being needlessly mean or harsh. It’s faultlessly normal to feel pain or loss later. And you can try talking to friends and family for support during the throbbing.